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[nattyx]

My boyfriend committed suicide a year ago and I only had 2 dreams of him, same time my close friends had dreams about him....

strangely a few days ago, I had a sex dream about him... It was very passionate, but not rythmnic (timing was very unusual) however, as we both climaxed, we both fell in the ocean?

The next day, my best friend had a dream about him too.. she was hanging out with her university friends and he was just standing there.


Does anyone else had the sex dream or have had these synchronized dreams where my friends would have a dream about him too?
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- Natty

[tasha]

As weird as it may sound, even to us folks here in our own weird world, I will bravely say, yes. I have had a dream about being intimate with my fiance, just a few days ago in fact. He has been gone for 4 weeks now.

It was weird, the youngest child was in the bed I guess from a nightmare, and I walked in from somewhere and despite his objection...yeah well you can guess the rest. In real-life we tried not to be intimate because we weren't married yet, so I think that was the hesistancy in the dream. I remember saying I couldn't wait anymore and in hindsight, spiritual values aside, I wish I had not witheld ANY thing from him at all. I think it helped his brain-chemistry, seriously...I am a biology geek and depression generally stems from chemical imbalances in the brain. Sex releases endorphins and even adrenaline, those things that keep us feeling happy and energetic. As horrid as it sounds, I sometimes think that no boundaries in our relationship would have him alive today....Our intimacy was wonderful.

Anyway, thought you would like some feedback to your question. And no, I don't think I have experienced synchronized dreams with other people.

[Bex]

I'm not sure about the synchronised dreams thing, although I would think that many of his friends and family will be dreaming of him and it's possible we have dreamed of him at the same time, we've just never talked about it to know for sure..

I have had intimate dreams though. Not sex, but a few weeks ago I had a dream where we kissed and it felt incredibly real. Those dreams are often so vivid that I'll wake up confused and feeling very conflicted about everything. In some ways I don't want to have these dreams that knock the wind out of me, but in other ways I'm just glad to have been able to spend a little more time with him.
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[MissingHim]

I have had synchronized dreams in the past with each of my daughters at different times and, just recently, with my husband's sister. I think two people dreaming the same dream at the same time must mean something special, but I'm not sure just what. Maybe a form of mental telepathy?

It's understandable that his sister and I might dream about him now that he is gone. Surviving suicide evokes similar emotions related to loss, regret, and sorrow that our subconscious minds probably try to make sense of while we sleep. But the other dreams I shared with my daughters were not during times of stress or loss, so I can't really explain them.

I've also wakened suddenly with a terrible feeling in the middle of the night several times and later found out that one of my daughters was sick at that moment or in some kind of stressful situation. I don't know if that meant I could sense something was wrong (a mother's intuition?) even though they were hundreds of miles away from me, but it certainly seems strange.